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Ten Do's for Men on a first Date
Dating Experts seem to think they know everything. By blinding following the advice of a dating expert, we can really get ourselves into trouble.
One of the so called dating expers, gives these 10 tips for Men who are going on a First date:
I've added my comments in italics.
1. Groom yourself before you go out and dress nicely.
That should go without saying, but from the looks of some of the men who show up shabbily dressed from time-to-time at our parties, I guess this needs to be said. NOTE: most men attending our parties are very nicely dressed, but there are always some exceptions..
2. Flirt and tease like there is no tomorrow.
Really? Wouldn't it depend on the situation and how one's date responds. I would think that some women might be really turned off by this behavior.
3. Buy new condoms AND clean up your place just in case.
I agree. It never hurts to be prepared. That's the boy scouts' motto.
4. Do give her a big hug as soon as you meet her because physical tough right away gets things off to a good start.
I think that could be a turn on for some women, but could turn some women off.
When giving a hug, it's always a good idea to ask permission first and then proceed accordingly. Rather than give a big hug, I think it is best to notice how the woman responds and then if appropriate give a "big hug." A big hug could be a real turn off to a woman if not done properly.
Move through the woman's boundaries and limits subtly. If you are holding her hand, see if you can give her a kiss next and so on.
This sounds fine as long it is done slowly and with due respect and attention to the woman's responses to your advances.
Have a stimulating conversation with her.
Act like a gentlemen and open doors for her, etc.
Yep, unless she indicates she doesn't like this.
Compliment her. (Not too much though!)
Make sure you compliments are sincere. When possible
try to compliment something that's unique about her.
Do only go to a place where you can afford to order the
most expensive item on the menu.
Unless she invited you out, in which case she should pay.
The person who does the inviting should be the one to pick up the check.
Relax and have fun!
Yes. Don't expect or intend to score. Just enjoy the time you are spending with her.
Please comment below. What do you think about these tips. Have any additional insights to offer?
One of the so called dating expers, gives these 10 tips for Men who are going on a First date:
I've added my comments in italics.
1. Groom yourself before you go out and dress nicely.
That should go without saying, but from the looks of some of the men who show up shabbily dressed from time-to-time at our parties, I guess this needs to be said. NOTE: most men attending our parties are very nicely dressed, but there are always some exceptions..
2. Flirt and tease like there is no tomorrow.
Really? Wouldn't it depend on the situation and how one's date responds. I would think that some women might be really turned off by this behavior.
3. Buy new condoms AND clean up your place just in case.
I agree. It never hurts to be prepared. That's the boy scouts' motto.
4. Do give her a big hug as soon as you meet her because physical tough right away gets things off to a good start.
I think that could be a turn on for some women, but could turn some women off.
When giving a hug, it's always a good idea to ask permission first and then proceed accordingly. Rather than give a big hug, I think it is best to notice how the woman responds and then if appropriate give a "big hug." A big hug could be a real turn off to a woman if not done properly.
Move through the woman's boundaries and limits subtly. If you are holding her hand, see if you can give her a kiss next and so on.
This sounds fine as long it is done slowly and with due respect and attention to the woman's responses to your advances.
Have a stimulating conversation with her.
Act like a gentlemen and open doors for her, etc.
Yep, unless she indicates she doesn't like this.
Compliment her. (Not too much though!)
Make sure you compliments are sincere. When possible
try to compliment something that's unique about her.
Do only go to a place where you can afford to order the
most expensive item on the menu.
Unless she invited you out, in which case she should pay.
The person who does the inviting should be the one to pick up the check.
Relax and have fun!
Yes. Don't expect or intend to score. Just enjoy the time you are spending with her.
Please comment below. What do you think about these tips. Have any additional insights to offer?
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by Apples on -
A few Do's for Us Ladies Too!
• Be on time; leave previous ‘post’ early, accounting for possible delays.
• Focus on getting to know your date, not on hanging out at your favorite place.
• Dress appropriately. Business casual attire always works best.
• Nothing too provocative; nothing sloppy, and please: No sweats!
• Greet your date with a Smile, and give eye contact. Maybe shake their hand!
• Showing that you appreciate them also fitting you into their plans.
• Turn off the cell phone, if you cannot mute the ring.
• Yes, even in vibration mode, all calls are distracting.
• Listen attentively to your date and provide input to the conversation.
• Relax, they’re also anxious; and making a new friend is cause for celebration!
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Permalink Reply by Phil on -
Thanks Apples, great tips.
I like that tip about turning off the cell phone a lot.
I was out really late with a nice lady and my cell phone
was going off. These weren't calls but emails coming
to my BlackBerry. She didn't understand and thought
I was getting calls from another girl friend. :(
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Permalink Reply by Rick on -
Is a flower or flowers still appropriate on a first date when picking the date up for dinner? Or is that to much to fast?
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Permalink Reply by Phil on
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I think flowers are still especially appropriate. It would be good to get some comments from the real experts on this, namely WOMEN!
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Permalink Reply by Phil on
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Just heard from one of the ladies, that if you bring flowers, you had better be prepared for a big hug on your first date.
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Permalink Reply by Apples on
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Hello all! I appreciate flowers anytime! We have a gentleman at work who brings in flowers to all of the female staff (married and single) fresh from his garden. Really peps up the office. - Glad to not be banned :))
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Permalink Reply by Doug on -
Let's keep it simple. It can all be boiled down into a few key points:
1. Honor yourself. (That's the part about dress and grooming and being prepared, etc.)
2. Honor the one you're with. (That's the part about basic courtesies, being on time, etc.)
3. Be genuinely curious about the one you're with. (This means more listening than talking. It makes flirting easier, makes the conversation more effortless, makes it easier to see when it's time for that hug or kiss and makes for a lot fewer questions about "chemistry.")
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